So the GF says I have an obsession

[Jeff]

Me and the woman were talking tonight and she says I have an obsession. Yes its my car.  In the beginning I explained what the car meant to me and my goal to have a 10 sec gn. Y 10s idk. Anyways her being an accountant sees this is a waste of money. I also told her that I wont propose to her untill I have a 10 sec slip. And honestly the main reason y the car first is bc she doesnt get this car hobby and is unsportive of it. Shes broken my balls about how much I dump into.it and shes not my wife so my thinking is fuck.it,you wait then.

I will admit im obsessed. These cars are my dream car and I finally have one and a pretty one at that too. I guess it doesnt help im.at a better paying job w little overhead that I can dump lotta $ into the car now. I guess I.do base my happiness off the car bc in my mind I accomplished a dream/goal. I even said u broke my balls about how much I put into the car as a gf,I dont want tp.imagine as a wife.

Its funny girls that had nothing going for themselves were cool.w the idea but my gf has a lot bu herself @32 hoise car accountant. Coukd just be my experiences... .

[Charlief1]

Get rid of her or the car. I speak from experience here.   There will never be enough room for 2 ladies in the house as long as the one you sleep with won't accept the one you drive.

[earlbrown]

I had to move the drill press off my kitchen countertop yesterday so I could fry fish in my frydaddy.


It was quiet in my house the whole time.

[Charlief1]

I'm sure the "fish" was a tasty treat Earl.   Got a pic of what you were "eating"?

[phil_long]

Hey Jeff, i respect you for that man.  You are one of the few who seems to have gotten it right before having to experience what a lot of these other gentlemen have.  I feel the exact same way about my Buick, and the wife knew what she was getting into. More power to ya!! Clearly if she can't accept the Buick, she can't accept you for who you are. What you do is, set up a meeting between you, her, and the Buick. Stand next to the buick, look at your lady and say, "you're either with us, or you are against us." 

[SuperSix]

Not sure if I would have tied a proposal to a time slip..

[Jeff]

I guess it really.comes.d own.to.money. I know to get the parts for a 10'sec timeslip are expensive. The car will.do what it does. Im not saying ok I.need the actual number but I.need the parts to be there already. I.look.at my brother and he was restoring his car but he started a family etc and the car is prob years away from.being done. I dont want that. I see once you start a life w someone.differ ent priorities take.place. I guess the fact she was breaking my balls about $ and were not even.married makes.me want to do.the car faster bc  its saving for a.wedding kids etc... I just dont want to be a car guy w no.car

[phil_long]

Completely understandable .

[SuperSix]

It looks to me like you made a decision of what is more important in your life - the car. Nothing wrong with that - but don't be surprised by any fallout.

[Pyro6]

So you ditch the car this time. What's next, will you need her permission to get a boat, new house, case a beer, dog, or cat??? You sound like you pay your dues, reward yourself. Tell her you could be wrapped up in drugs or gambling or some horseshit like that.

[Jeff]

mark i am not surprised if there is. i also told her if u didnt break my balls i would have had the 10 sec car. she stood quiet. shes not saying it her or the car so much she says she has to compete w it. and ive told her im not chasing women doing drugs etc. yes its expensive but thats the name of the game. pyro i guess thats what im afraid of. she doesnt have a hobby,maybe saving money which is great but she doesnt really enjoy it either. i even asked her ok so i wait for the car we get married and i want to do a turbo for my car you would have no problem? her answer was as long as we are not struggling. but theres never enough $ saved even if it was a million.


i know at the end of this im doing the car first bc i know how it will be if i don't. ill regret and start to despise her bc i was to pussy whipped to do what i want. i guess her turning 33 doesnt help matters atleast in her mind. its tough bc i do love her and she is really good but when it comes to $ we see things totally different. and thats a big issue....

[earlbrown]

Men marry women and hope they don't change....   and they do.

Women marry men hoping to change them....   and they don't.  (or they do, and the women resent them for that)




Much like when Ferris Beuller was playing wargames...   The only correct answer is not to play.




I could be biased as I don't have to lose half my shit to get a newer model.

[Shimy87]

better to find out your ideas on money arent compatable now, then wait and give her half of yours. Unless your are wealthy, money issues will always be there, and a constant fight over who spends how much on whatever will make for a pretty misrable life

[firebird_1252]

I had to move the drill press off my kitchen countertop yesterday so I could fry fish in my frydaddy.


It was quiet in my house the whole time.

lol earl you are my hero

[firebird_1252]

So you ditch the car this time. What's next, will you need her permission to get a boat, new house, case a beer, dog, or cat??? You sound like you pay your dues, reward yourself. Tell her you could be wrapped up in drugs or gambling or some horseshit like that.

Truth spoken right there. What are her hobbies? What ever they are tell her to stop and see how she likes it.